What is Love?

        

I've never had a boyfriend, never been in a relationship before, so frankly, I don't have much rights to talk about love. But I'm such a thinker that this question is always popping out in my head. 

It's this simple question: What is love?

Honestly, what is love? Love, for me, in its purest form is when we can look beyond imperfections, we are willing to sacrifice our time for that person, when that person is in our mind most of the time. We're willing to accept his/her good and bad, rich of poor, handsome/pretty or not (aiya, just like those vows we always listen to)

But then this world is such a realistic world that honestly, love isn't that pure as we think it is. Where are we going to find someone who still loves us when we're fat, ugly and when we're so poor we can't eat the next meal? I'm not saying that it's impossible to find love like this but it's so rare that some of us many not find partners like this in our entire life. 

So many of us talk about love like its so wonderful. You know, go ask somebody out there, what is love? Probably they'll answer you like what I just said, where we don't mind this and that. But then, when it comes to action, how many of us can love like this? 

Honestly, a poor guy and a rich guy, which one shines more? The rich one's gonna attract you more, frankly speaking. I haven't been in love so I really don't know what it feels like to just love your partner's everything so for me, I'm gonna be attracted to the richer one. Afterall, he's got more money to buy all the stuffs for me and it's sweet, isn't it? And imagine all the glitz and glamour you get when dating a rich one. And all the jealousy and envy you get from others. We all know deep down inside that it's satisfying to get a boyfriend like that. 

Or for the guys, it's so nice to get a pretty and hot girlfriend. Like, her face is so nice to look at that you can look at her all the time. And then you can show off to your friends how lucky you are that your girlfriend's so hot. 

Love is so deceiving, sometimes I don't know if I'll ever love someone because I don't even know if what I feel is love or just mere attraction. I remember I once read that love is like a ghost. So many people talk about it but a few have seen it. 

If your girlfriend is fat and ugly, are you still gonna love her? And if your boyfriend is so poor that he can't really give you anything, are you still gonna love him? Like, you know, we all have some friends that, when we date someone ugly, they're gonna laugh at us behind our back and then insult out taste, saying that we have such a bad taste. I don't know if you have but I certainly have a few. And who are they to laugh about who their friends are dating? As long as it's love, I don't see any problem.

 I don't really believe in love at first sight. Maybe it happens for some people, but that's because it's just coincidence and fate just bought them together. Liking someone on the first sight is attraction, not love. It only comes to love when you've really accepted each other. 

So to the girls out there, if you think that by becoming pretty and hot you will get the guys, seriously, there'll always be a part of you that would always wonder if your guy really loves you. And if your guy really loves you only for your looks, one day, he's gonna cheat on you for an even prettier girl. There're so many pretty girls out there, you aren't the only one so you have got sooooo many competitors! Don't worry that no one will love you because, a modern Cinderella can live by herself and still feels amazing. :D

It's nice to have someone loves us, of course. I don't mean to sound feminist (you know, like females-must-take-charge-and-kill-all-the-guys). It's just that sometimes when I see how everyone is only looking at the surface of everything, it really saddens me. :(

That's why, I really admire guys who date girls that perhaps are not that beautiful in our eyes, but definitely the most beautiful in their eyes. It's not a question about taste, it's about love.

Happy Belated Valentine's Day.