The Gender Thing

In school, I don't really know any guys (cos' I was just too lazy to socialise). So, what actually defines a "gentleman", I never really know.
But now that I've got better idea on what defines a "gentleman", I realise that being a man is not any easier than being a woman.
You know why? Because I think we, ladies sometimes expect too much in life. Ladies nowadays are so bloody pampered. 

1. If you go out with a guy and he doesn't pay for your lunch, you'll gossip with your girlfriends that he's not gentleman enough. 
2. If he doesn't take your handbag for you, you'll complain he's not gentleman enough. 
3. If he doesn't drive you, you also complain. 
4. If he has no opinion on the clothes you're wearing, you complain. 
5. If he doesn't compliment, you complain. 
6. If he's poor, you don't like. 
7. If he's rich, you say he's not handsome enough. 
8. If he's handsome, you say he's not smart enough. 
9. If he doesn't pay for you, you say he's stingy. 
10. If he loves his mom, you say he's mommy's boy. 
11. If he's doesn't love his mom, you say he's not a good son. 
12. If he goes out with his friends, you say he abandons you. 
13. If he doesn't, you say he's not sociable. 

For people who stumble upon my blog, I'm not a guy.
So, back to the my main point, what defines a "gentleman"?
I think it's slightly different with everyone.
For me, a person who's gentleman is someone who:

1. Will let ladies enter KTM, buses or cars first. Even when it's during peak hours. 
2. Will let ladies enter lifts first.
3. Has filial piety. 
4. Is polite. 
5. Talk smartly when needed, be humble when needed, keep quiet when needed. 
6. Confident but not overconfident. 
7. Spend money when needed but also save when it's time to save. 

But that's all for me. I mean, for me, I don't really need much requirements when it comes to all these. I'm  not talking about my dream boyfriend or bloody whatever. I'm talking about my perception of gentleman in general.
And I realised, we ladies have too much expectation in guys. There's one thing that I think it's really unfair to guys.

We can't expect guys to pay for us wherever we go.

I don't know la... maybe it's based on the fact that I'm from girls school and they said we tend to be more independent. Flunyway, we can't expect our boyfriends to pay for us in EVERY dates and stuffs. That, dear, is not being "gentleman".  It's just the girls being materialistic.

If your boyfriends earn their own money and they wanna spend on you until their pocket also dry, that, is up to them. But it's blardy unfair when you insist your boyfriend to pay for you when he's just using his mommy's money.

Dude, wake up, don't spend your mom's money too much on your girlfriends! It doesn't show how gentleman you are, it merely shows how unimportant your mom is to you.

And girls, you're dating your boyfriend or his mom ah? Pay a little for your own meal will die ah?

Another thing I can't really accept is that boys taking handbags for their girlfriends.

Again, guys, you might think you're just being nice and gentleman but let me tell you, you're NOT AT ALL!! You're just pampering your girlfriends and trust me, in the end, you'll be the one suffering. If let's say the girl's bag is bloody heavy then okay la, that's acceptable. But hor, if there's only a phone and purse in the bag, then I think the girl is just a spoiled princess. It's stupid. If you're gonna buy a nice bag and in the end, your boyfriend's the one taking it, you buy some more for what? Must as well buy for your boyfriend.

I think it's really important for gentleman to be gentleman. But not up to the extend of pampering the ladies.

I understand, last time, long long time ago, it was all about ladies getting abused, men getting all the power. Now, we're having equality. Now, we all want the guys to take care of us because we don't want to be bullied anymore.

But you know what? Ladies, shut up with the "women's rights" excuses to ask men to do things. Start taking your own bags, earn your own money and spend them yourself and pay your own meals. Stop being such spoiled brats that only know how to wait for guys to do things for you.

Even though many times my friends would ask me what kinda husband I would like to get in the future and I'll answer rich, but then seriously, I'm okay with being poor. I've trained (and still in the process) myself by saving money so I'm not really afraid of being poor. I mean, of course, we all love rich guys, but they're like bonus for me. It's like, if he's rich, then good la.. but if he's poor, I've got nothing to lose either (maybe I do but as cliche as it may sound, love is blind).


Like I said in my previous post, I don't do charity but in return, I don't ask for charity either. That's just the way we do things sometimes. Try to stick to our life principles.

Sometimes, being TOO much of a gentleman is not really good. You'll end up pampering the girls.

Men who are gentlemen are decreasing as time passes by, but ladies who are ladylike enough are also decreasing.

The graph is directly proportional .Hence, more gentlemen, more ladylike, less gentlemen, less ladylike.  I drew it in pink some more, how cute... this is actually inspired by one of Xiaxue's graphs (I'd better say it first before you all say I copycat her) . 

And I think it's important that us, girls smile and say a word of "thank you" when a man is good enough to let enter buses, lifts etc.

I have a picture, a graph and coloured my words.. now, are you still complaining it's boring?