Suddenly, Reality Hits You. Real Hard.

Now that everyone has their results out, many are planning their future, their dreams and their lives.
I have a lot of friends who have dreams. I mean, come on, all young people like us, have dreams. Some small, some big. Dreams are what make us alive. It gives us reasons to live.. blablabla.. those, you know, inspiring stuffs...

Anyway, the things is, I also have friends who'll give up their dreams. Because of some obstacles that force them to choose another way.

You know, I used to think that people who will give up their dreams even when they haven't started failing are weaklings. I would actually look down upon them, and thought that they have no will to do what they want to do. I used to have this mindset of, "If you want to do this so much, then just do it! Whatever obstacles that are coming to you, just move on."

But when I've finally overcome an obstacle, I realise that these people are not weakling.
Some people will have to give up their dreams because their families are too poor.
Some will have to give up because they don't want to disappoint their parents.
Some will have to give up because they have responsibilities ahead of them.

I realise that I should not hate or look down on these people. In fact, I should envy them. I used to think that I'm going to be stronger than all these people who gave up. They're just weaklings so they're nothing in my life. But then after that, I realise that these people, they're stronger than me.

Perhaps they've given up their dreams. But when I think about it, who in this world would wanna give up their dreams? Would you? There's something you really want in life so obviously you'll go get it. These people, if they're given a choice, they would have chosen to achieve their dreams. But the thing is, they have no choice. They need to choose another road. This is when I truly admire these people. The courage of choosing a route they don't want. I realise that I certainly can't do that. I couldn't bear consequences. I couldn't live a life I don't want.

But these people, even if they don't want, they realise they had to.They have no choice. If they were to insist on choosing their dreams. they might have disappointed a lot of people.
I've grown up to realise that dreams are beautiful and yet scary. If we've chosen the route we want to, we're actually being pretty selfish. When many people said to chase our own dreams, a few actually understand that in the process, a lot of sacrifices is needed. I'm not saying those pleasures of life craps that you'll have to give up. I'm talking about other people's disappointment. It's not nice to you very own friends, family, relatives to be disappointed at what you're choosing. Sometimes in life, it doesn't mean that just because you've chosen what you want, you only need to work hard.

Those who say hard work will bring success is bullshit. Of course, hard work and determination is the major thing. Without them, you must as well die. But they're not all. There're a lot factors to be considered. I have to say I am darn lucky to grow up in an environment where both my parents can allow me to do things I want and to chase my dreams. Financially, my parents are pretty okay. So, it takes a long time for me to understand why people give up dreams sometimes.

They're not giving up, actually. They're not weaklings. In fact, I now have respect for all these people. I really do respect those who're doing Form 6 despite the fact that they hate Form 6 (I am one of those who doesn't like), those who're applying for scholarships and will take any course give and those who have chosen to listen to their parents instead of having their own dreams.

They're really amazing.